How to Get Ready for a New Baby?

cartoonIn my household of three, we are getting ready to have a second child in a few months. I have been trying to figure out how to include my two year old into helping get things ready for his new baby sister. It has been a challenge trying to figure out if he understands what is going on. When we ask him where the baby is, he is always pointing to my belly. That is all he really does though. So I am trying to figure out ways that I can help him understand the concept that in a few short months we are going to have an addition to our family.

A few weeks ago, we went to the store and I let my son help me pick out some clothes for his little sister. I try to let me help me pick out everything, but I know that has to be more than just picking out clothes and other small items for his sister. So I starting researching ways that I can get my son involved in the process of getting him to better understand that he is going to have a little sister soon. I was reading in an article expert advise from the baby center, that you it is a good idea to show your other child pictures of you when you were pregnant with them. Tell them about how excited you were for them and show your toddler newborn baby pictures of themselves so they have an idea of what a newborn baby looks like.

Another piece of good advice this site gave me is take your toddler around other relatives and friends that have babies. Let your child interact with them. I thought this is a great idea, it will teach my son that he will still get attention and he can see what a small baby really looks like. I have relatives that have small cousins, I let them come over to my house and play with my son and I play with them. I do this to show my son what it will be like with a new little baby being in the house. How is has to learn to share mom’s attention.

Here are some books title to help you prepare your child for the new arrival:

 

Here are some other ideas I found about getting your child ready for a new baby:

  1. Learn about it together- read books with your child and explain to them what is happening in your stomach. Their are videos on phones that can explain to a child what is going on.
  2. Imagine- talk about the new baby. Such as: do you think the baby is going to look like you. What color hair do you think it will have.
  3. Watch what you say- When you talk about your pregnancy and adding a new addition to your family be excited talk about the good things and not the difficulties you will face. A toddler can pick up on a negative attitude.
  4. Let your toddler have a role- Let your child help. Explain to the child that mom and dad are going to need help when the new baby comes.
  5. Get gifts from the new baby- When your in the hospital and child comes to visit, let the new baby get your child something such as an outfit or a toy. Let your child be apart of the new arrival.

~being a parent is an amazing journey~

#newbaby, #raisingchildren, #pregnancy, #newsibling, #gettingready, #pregnancy

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How to deal with Toddlers That are Picky Eaters

My son is going through the stage where he will barely eat anything. He wants certain foods and that is it. Most of the foods he wants is not even healthy for him. So I started looking for ideas online where I could get healthy foods in my son without his knowledge. I know one doctor told me its okay if he does not eat meat as long as he is eating another protein he will be okay. Well now all my son wants is pasta. Any kind of noodle he will eat but I can not get much more food into him that is healthy.

'It says right here in the ingredients, 'this product contains no yucky stuff'.'

‘It says right here in the ingredients, ‘this product contains no yucky stuff’.’

I also heard the phase do not force a child to eat. They will eat when they are hungry. I agree with that phase but I want some type of routine for my son so he is eating healthy meals and not eating at like 9:30 p.m. at night before he goes to bed. So I did some research online on how to deal with picky toddlers to get some ideas. Here are some of the ideas that I came up with:

  • Eat healthy foods around your child. I know with my son if I’m eating something he wants it too.
  • Keep a bowl of fruits such as strawberries or a banana around and your child may pick at it during the day.
  • When eating something, do not make faces that show you do not like the food, because toddlers can catch on to that and realize if you do not like it then they probably will not either.
  • Let your older toddlers help in the kitchen. They like to help prepare the food that they are going to eat. I let my toddler help me in the kitchen as much as I can.
  • Some children have sensitivities, sometimes toddlers do not like food that is crunchy. So try different ideas such as apple sauce instead of apple slices.

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These are just a few of the ideas here is a link that shows many more:

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~parenting is an amazing journey~

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When to Move a Toddler from Rear-facing to Forward facing in a Car Seat:

When my son was a year old, I decided it was time to turn his car seat from rear facing to forward facing. Some people told me that was a bad idea. So I started doing research on when to turn a toddler’s car seat from rear facing to front facing in the car. I was getting so many results. There were many things you should take into consideration before forward facing a toddler. One of the first things is that a child should be at minimum 20 pounds.

One of things I learned from doing the research from the the car seat seat lady, is to read the owner’s manual very carefully. The manual can be confusing; but keep a child rear facing until they are at least two. The American Academy of Pediatrics says it is much safer for a child to stay rear facing until the child hits the maximum weight and height limit on their rear facing car seat.  If you are worried about your child’s legs there are being zero cases when a toddler has broke there legs or hurt their spine when they were in a rear facing car seat and was in an accident. The toddlers legs are allowed to to touch the seat or bend.

The video above demonstrates what happens in a car crash when a child is impacted in a car crash. This video displays two children, one is rear facing and the other is forward facing. Watch the impact that the crash has on both children. This video has been slowed down because a crash happens faster than this.

In a study in 2007 by the Injury Prevention it showed that children under 2 years of age were safer rear facing and resulting in preventing death or severe injuries to the child. Rear facing a child is also 5 times safer. If your toddler grows out of their convertible car seat before the age of two you can either buy them a new car seat with a higher weight limit, or you can froward face them. Just make sure the harness is securely fastened. Make sure if you use the seat belt you make sure it is tight and can barely move. Also the latch bar is secured so that the car seat is going no where. Make sure that the clip in the front is at in the right position. Also known as the clip that holds the child in safely.

~parenting is an amazing journey~

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If you have any questions ask your pediatrician when you go to your next visit.

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How to Help Children Cope in Crisis

When raising your children there are difficult situations you may have to go through with your children. Such as losing a loved one or going through a divorce? These situations affect the children as well as yourself. So how can we as parents and role models to children help them cope with what is going on? Help them to understand it and why things like this happen. So even if they come to us to with questions we can have the answers ahead of time to help us with through these situations. Dr. Carol Dell’Oliver says”most children are vulnerable in times of crisis. Whether they are personally affected or exposed to traumatic circumstances through the media, it is important to protect children’s emotional well being as much as their physical safety.

There are many tips to help parents deal with these situations to make it easier on parents and on the children:

  • Be aware of the common reactions to the trauma– each child is different in he or she responds to the events going on around them. Some children may act out, or want more attention.
  • Be prepared to deal with fears and worries– kids may start to be afraid more, and have stomach and headaches.  You can help with by reading to them, soothing music, and reassuring your child with words and hugs.
  • Create Safety– focus on being comforting to your child. Show them security.
  •  Limit to how much news you expose to your child– just give children basic facts that they can understand, and assure them that safety is the most important thing.
  • Take time to listen to your child- let your children vent to you their feelings and concerns. Ask open ended questions.
  • Encourage writing and drawing about the experience– some children do not express their feelings with words. Let them write or draw about how they feel. Remind mine its okay to feel the way that you do.
  • Remember to play– let your children tell stories how have they feel. This lets them let out stress and how they feel about the situation.
  • Model healthy coping skills- kids will look to you about how your doing with the situations. If your child see you upset just let them know you are sad about the situation right now.
  • Monitor behavior over time– keep an eye on change in your child such as sleeping, eating, playing, and socializing. If there is no improvement overtime get professional help.
  • Inspire a positive response– Help your child with directing their feelings in a positive and constructive manner. Such as helping others.

Tips by: https://www.mercycorps.org/helping-children-through-crisis-tips-parents-and-caregivers

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I hope these tips help you and your family when going through a crisis or a difficult situation.

~parenting is an amazing journey~

 

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Types of Parenting Styles

In about two weeks my son will be two years old. His attitude has changed. He gets mad and throws these tantrums and throws himself backwards. Every parent handles a tantrum differently. I am trying to figure out the right way to handle it with my child. Like this weekend for example, I took my son to Kraynaks in Pennsylvania, to see the Easter display. He  refused to sit in the stroller. He wanted me to hold him. If I didn’t proceed to hold him, he through a tantrum. Which in a public place is embarrassing. So I let him hold my hand and walk next to me. I do not understand why my son refuses to sit in the grocery art wherever I go. If he is with his grandma or his grandpa he sits in the buggy no problem. So why is it that he gives me such a rough time? Is it because I do not let him cry it out, I just give him so I don’t have to hear it?

According to an article that I read there are 4 different types of parenting styles. You have the authoritative, the permissive, un-involveded, and authoritarian parenting styles. The authoritative parenting style, is where parents set rules and expect children will follow them no matter what.  The permissive parents do not discipline much they are more like a friend to their child. The un-involved parents tend to neglect their child. They often to not meet their children’s basic needs. Authoritative parents  set rules but they allow exceptions to the rules that the children can get away with.

I discipline my child but there are exceptions to my rules. I think I am more of a authoritative parent. I think I may not want to feel embarrassed and let me son cry and let him know who is in charge. That way he knows that mom is the boss. You need to let your child know who is in charge. Do it while they are little so as they grow up. You want your child to listen to you and follow rules. Use a little of each type of parent while you are raising your child and you should end up with a balance.

According to an article I read “parenting styles are associated with different child outcomes and the authoritative style is generally linked to positive behaviors such as strong self-esteem and self-competence. However, other important factors including culture, children’s perceptions of parental treatment, and social influences also play an important role in children’s behavior.” (Cherry)

~parenting is an amazing journey~

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These are the results of the 4 Parenting Styles: 

  • Authoritarian- children are faithful and accomplished in some areas, but lack in happiness, social interaction and self esteem.
  • Authoritative-children are content, and successful.
  • Permissive– children lack happiness. They experience problem with authority and poor performance in school.
  • Un-Invovled– lack in self-esteem, not up to pair with their peers.

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http://discipline.about.com/od/typesofdiscipline/a/Types-Of-Discipline-Strategies-And-Parenting-Styles.htm

http://psychology.about.com/od/developmentalpsychology/a/parenting-style.htm

 

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Transitioning a toddler from a crib to a toddler bed:

Do you ever think of when is the best time to transition a toddler from a crib to a toddler bed?  This past week, I moved my son from a crib to a toddler bed. Myself and my boyfriend, took down our son’s crib. The reaction on his face was disappointing to see. He was sad we were taking his crib down. He started to cry. We told him that we would be moving his new big boy bed into his room. He still was crying. Well we took the crib downstairs, and then brought in his toddler bed. The expression on his face changed amost instantly. He was glowing and so excited. We set up the new bed and put the bedding on, and he loved it. He went right to his bed and was jumping on it. I was so happy that he finally loved his new bed. The first night was not easy. He kept getting out of his bed, and wanting to play. We kept placing him back in his bed. We told him it was time for bed. We kept his routine the same. First his bath, and then a story, and then to bed. We laid with him the first and second night until he fell asleep. We were consistent and did not give up. Now we just place him in bed after his bath time, read him a story and lay him in his bed. We checked on him and within a half hour he is sound asleep.

You know raising a child isn’t easy. Everyone has there own point of view on how to raise their children. You can discuss with others about when they transitioned their children to different phases of childhood. Every child is different. My son was ready to switch to another bed. He kept trying to get out of his crib all the time. I didn’t want him to get hurt. In an article, that I read it says that your child will let you know when they are ready to go into a toddler bed. The timing is different for every child.

 

#parenting, #toddlers, #raising children,# tips for transitioning, #growing up

~parenting is one of the most amazing journeys~

 

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 Tips for a Easy Going Transition: 

  • Don’t transition them earlier than they need to be.
  • Let them choice the bedding for their new bed
  • Prepare for falls
  • Block the door
  • Easier to put to sleep when child is tired
  • Be Consistent
  • Don’t change the bedtime routine.
  • Having Patience!

 

Tips from: http://www.popsugar.com/moms/Transitioning-Toddlers-From-Crib-Tips-27330444

 

 

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Interacting is Important in Child Development

Does it ever amaze you what little kids do? How quick kids can catch on to something, just by watching their parents do it? My son will be two in April and it always fascinates me at what my child can do at such a young age. His mind is like a sponge; and he is always watching what I am doing. The other day my son and I were reading a book called “Brown Bear Brown Bear What Do You See?”  We were going through the book looking at the pictures and going over what animal was in each picture. I could say the name of the  maybe one or two times and then my son would repeat it. It was crazy that he could catch on so quick with no hesitation.

I love to interact and bond with my child and reading is one of the ways I do that. We enjoy each other’s company and it’s so important to interact with your children. You can do this with technology such as an iPad or phone. But you can also do it the old fashion way. Either way spend as much time with your children as you can. They need the social interact to help them grow. Dr. Ann Mastergeorge stated, “50 percent of parents believe their children learn just as much as watching learn just as much from watching television as much as being with the parents!” Dr. Ann has led a 12-week intervention help parents learn how important it is for parents to interact with their children.

I have read articles that talk about the importance of bonding with your children.This article by the Huffington Post, “Ninety percent of a child’s brain development during the first three years of his or her life.” How much of a necessity it is to a child’s development. Even it’s bedtime and you’re reading your child story, or in the morning when you are getting your child ready for the day. Spend time with children. Or when they are playing, just watch and see what they come up with. You would’ve amazed at the things little children come up with, as their imaginations start to wonder. They may pretend to be an astronaut in space; or even a marching band. By putting a bucket on their head, and using a microphone as a trumpet. Or even at the grocery store watch how they entertain themselves in the cart while you shop.

 

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Here are some websites of  different ideas you can use to interact with your children:

http://childdevelopmentinfo.com/child-development/play-work-of-children/pl5/ 

http://www.babble.com/kid/5-ways-parents-can-encourage-creative-talents-in-their-kids/

http://www.crayola.com/for-educators/resources-landing/parents-and-teachers-as-partners-landing/creative-parenting.aspx

 

 

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